END OF LIFE SUPPORT

For you, your partner and your family
 

At Mummy’s Star, we actively encourage our families to make informed choices around how they wish to approach all aspects of an end-of-life journey.  

While it can be difficult to think or have conversations about death and dying, they can provide a much-needed understanding of what is going to happen and reassurance that the right support and care will be in place.

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
What do we mean by 'End of Life'?

End of life is the term used to describe the last weeks, months or years of a person’s life. For our families, this could mean a secondary diagnosis of an incurable cancer or the failure of treatment leading to an incurable prognosis. 

End of life care supports an individual to live as well as possible until they die, and to then die with dignity. It also supports the family and friends who are part of that journey, including bereavement support afterwards. 

End of Life Needs 

Having open conversations around an incurable prognosis and end of life aren’t easy, but are important for everyone involved. They can ensure everyone receives the support they need and opens possibilities for activities and services that may not have been considered. 

 

This can include: 

 

Physical Support 

  • Ensuring the correct pain management is in place 

  • Making changes to the home to facilitate a safe and comfortable environment as your physical abilities change 

  • Discussing where you might like to be (home, hospice, etc.) when the time comes 

 

Practical Support 

  • Organising changes to bills and other legal matters and leaving work 

  • Arranging for childcare, housekeeping etc. to give you time to rest and enjoy one another 

  • Talking about your funeral costs and how to meet them 

  • Claiming the correct financial support  

  • Financial help is available and can sometimes be accessed at short notice. More information can be found on our End of life Finances page. 

 

Emotional Support 

  • Planning special trips or activities for memory making with your children 

  • Talking to a friend or professional about how you are feeling; being able to discuss your fear, sadness, anger etc. without shame or worry 

  • Making memory boxes or writing letters for the future 

  • Spending quality time with your partner 

 

Spiritual Needs 

  • Discussing the content of your funeral and any spiritual elements you may want included 

  • Meeting with a representative from your faith to receive their support 

  • Exploring new thoughts/feelings around faith and belief that may arise  

 

Every family and individual’s needs will be unique. It is important to remember that there is no right way to approach end of life. Being honest and open about your needs means those supporting you can do their utmost to meet them and give you the best possible care. 

 

It’s Good To Talk...

This is not a journey to undertake alone and, if you feel able, talking to your partner, friends and family about the reality of your situation will be a great help to you all. If this feels difficult, there are a number of other people and services that can provide a listening ear and compassionate, understanding advice: 

 

  • A Mummy’s Star’s Information Support Worker 

  • Your local hospice team 

  • Your health care provider 

  • A certified counsellor 

  • Samaritans (or another anonymous listening service) 

  • A good friend or family member 

 

Talking to your child(ren) about an end of life prognosis can be the most difficult conversation of all; yet again it is vitally important to offer them the same openness and honesty you would another family member.

 

We offer detailed support to our Mums on talking to children about Cancer and dying, in collaboration with the Fruitfly Collective. Click here to watch our Ask The Expert session about Children and Talking Cancer. 

 

Your Choice 

However you choose to approach your end of life journey, Mummy’s Star is there to support you in making informed and individual choices, that will ensure the comfort, care and wellbeing of yourself and your family above all else. 

 

For more details, please contact your Information Support Worker or email info@mummysstar.org at any time.